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Hey you lot
I'm back after a long while but in need on the sensible advice I know I can rely on.
I split with my abusive husband and have since met a lovely new man (2 years between them) thing in my ex didn't take it well and ramped up his abuse and has attacked me again multiple times. We have moved home, got restraining order which he breached, he's on bail, etc.
Anyway, I've been with my new partner for a year and we have discussed the future. I have children and he doesn't, and he would like to at some point. I have said not just now, I have to wait until the divorce is finalised then we can try.
Am I being silly in even considering it? My ex is a very abusive man, but I adore my partner and would love to have a child with him at some point. After 14 years of hell with one monster, it's nice to finally to be with a decent man. I'm just worried that I'm not thinking clearly, risking my life and ruining his.
I'm back after a long while but in need on the sensible advice I know I can rely on.
I split with my abusive husband and have since met a lovely new man (2 years between them) thing in my ex didn't take it well and ramped up his abuse and has attacked me again multiple times. We have moved home, got restraining order which he breached, he's on bail, etc.
Anyway, I've been with my new partner for a year and we have discussed the future. I have children and he doesn't, and he would like to at some point. I have said not just now, I have to wait until the divorce is finalised then we can try.
Am I being silly in even considering it? My ex is a very abusive man, but I adore my partner and would love to have a child with him at some point. After 14 years of hell with one monster, it's nice to finally to be with a decent man. I'm just worried that I'm not thinking clearly, risking my life and ruining his.