Boomerslady
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I'm so sorry for always moaning ladies, I'm just fed up with my OH at the moment after Reading the thread about other peoples lovely OH it makes me realise how lovely some men can be!
I love my OH to bits, don't get me wrong but I think we are going through a bad patch! We lived together at his Mums for a good year or so, until we moved into our own flat 3 weeks ago. At his Mums (because I was working full time) and he can't find work, he did everything, he cooked me dinner, fetched me drinks etc etc.
Now we are in our own flat he seems to want to get revenge for me doing nothing for all that time. He occasionally does the washing up, and I think he's hoovered once and put 1 load of washing on. He moans like a child at having to do these small chores. He said yesterday he's finding it hard having a whole flat to keep clean, rather than one room, which is fair enough.
But yesterday I wanted to punch him! He had a dentist appointment and while he was gone I did the washing up, 2 loads of washing, hoovered and cleaned the bathroom. I hadn't sat down in hours, when he got home he walked in and said, oh I'm knackered I need to sit down (I was thinking your knackered??? Cheeky prick) and he goes and sits himself in front of the tv while I'm hoovering.
Also, this is kinda OT and he has apologised (after a row!) but i needed copies of his bank statements to prove to the council he has no money (he's not entitled to job seekers because I was on a high salary) He gave them to me & it said there was £40 in there. I questioned him on it, and he said oh yeah, it was a payment from the job centre, I took it out yesterday. I was fuming, I deal with all bills, food shopping etc etc (I'm in my overdraft as am waiting for my MA money). He said he was gonna keep the money for fags, as he hated asking me for money.
I went absolutely ape shit at him, I know he wants his own money, but why should he get £40 for stuff when I haven't spent a penny on myself in months. I don't wanna be made to feel like I can't trust him. I explained I needed all his money for rent/bills etc and if we had any spare he could buy fags.
Like I said he's apologised since but I was sooo angry, I know he hates me looking after the money, but he doesn't wanna do it, therefore what am I meant to do!?
Sorry this turned out to be a lot longer than I thought. Likebi said k think it's just a rough patch, but I'm finding it so hard adjusting to having my own place, keeping it clean, sorting out bills, council tax etc while it feels like he sits on his arse.
Sorry again for the rant, I'm sure things will get better (they better do) or I'll lose my mind!
I love my OH to bits, don't get me wrong but I think we are going through a bad patch! We lived together at his Mums for a good year or so, until we moved into our own flat 3 weeks ago. At his Mums (because I was working full time) and he can't find work, he did everything, he cooked me dinner, fetched me drinks etc etc.
Now we are in our own flat he seems to want to get revenge for me doing nothing for all that time. He occasionally does the washing up, and I think he's hoovered once and put 1 load of washing on. He moans like a child at having to do these small chores. He said yesterday he's finding it hard having a whole flat to keep clean, rather than one room, which is fair enough.
But yesterday I wanted to punch him! He had a dentist appointment and while he was gone I did the washing up, 2 loads of washing, hoovered and cleaned the bathroom. I hadn't sat down in hours, when he got home he walked in and said, oh I'm knackered I need to sit down (I was thinking your knackered??? Cheeky prick) and he goes and sits himself in front of the tv while I'm hoovering.
Also, this is kinda OT and he has apologised (after a row!) but i needed copies of his bank statements to prove to the council he has no money (he's not entitled to job seekers because I was on a high salary) He gave them to me & it said there was £40 in there. I questioned him on it, and he said oh yeah, it was a payment from the job centre, I took it out yesterday. I was fuming, I deal with all bills, food shopping etc etc (I'm in my overdraft as am waiting for my MA money). He said he was gonna keep the money for fags, as he hated asking me for money.
I went absolutely ape shit at him, I know he wants his own money, but why should he get £40 for stuff when I haven't spent a penny on myself in months. I don't wanna be made to feel like I can't trust him. I explained I needed all his money for rent/bills etc and if we had any spare he could buy fags.
Like I said he's apologised since but I was sooo angry, I know he hates me looking after the money, but he doesn't wanna do it, therefore what am I meant to do!?
Sorry this turned out to be a lot longer than I thought. Likebi said k think it's just a rough patch, but I'm finding it so hard adjusting to having my own place, keeping it clean, sorting out bills, council tax etc while it feels like he sits on his arse.
Sorry again for the rant, I'm sure things will get better (they better do) or I'll lose my mind!