I didn’t but I was supposed to. My stepdad singlehandedly decided to exclude us. Literally lied to my mom that he went to get us. We were all unamused because she wanted us there, and I wanted to be there.
I think a lot of it has to do with. She and maturity and having conversations -dead of time. One of my brothers (originally meant to be both) watched me give birth. He was like 18 or so. And he watched it from the lens of being a doctor. Our relationship was stronger or weaker, and his twin is actually the official godfather because he’s closer to my son.
sorry I know that wasn’t really the question