17 and probably pregnant

Try not to worry unless you’re having pain or bleeding. Cramping is normal. What you’re experiencing is most likely the hook effect. It kicks in after 5w-6w. TLDR there is so much hcg in your body that it overwhelms the test so the test appears lighter. There’s a way to dilute your urine to make sure it’s a hook effect (using 1 part urine, 2 parts water) but honestly it’s best to just put the hpts down and enjoy your pregnancy

here was my water test and here are two pics to show that at 27dpo 5w6d my tests started getting lighter (look at the control line)

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Were you able to get your prenatal set up? Mine were always at about 8.5w and it’s such a huge relief.
 
I got a meeting with a doctor tmr but turns out the clinic is actually specialized in abortions so I had to be extra clear I just needed a scan so they changed it for tmr so I have a scan tmr
 
Hi there ,

i had a scan today. Got some terrible news, let’s start off at the first basics the nurse I got shamed me on being a teen mom, I then had a abdominal ultrasound where the woman made comments
On my tummy fat, and then she said that it wouldn’t work because of the amount of fat I had, and proceeded to make me do a trans vaginal ultrasound, I had specified that I was a rape victim and she had to be careful but she then made me
Strip half way ( bottom half) didn’t let my friend come with me, and shoved and when I say shoved the wand up me she SHOVED it with full force I was in tears at this point and then she said ok. And didn’t let me get dressed till she was done talking where she proceeded to yell at me to hurry up over and over again. Brought me to her office and took 6 vials of blood in the most brutal way then the doctor came in and told me they couldn’t find a heart beat and that it seems that the baby was
Either dead or I was going crazy and not actually pregnant beside the fact that I did a urine test with the nurse. They then told me to come Back Monday for more blood tests. So over all I’m not feeling great..
 
Oh my god, that is absolutely disgusting treatment you received, I’m so sorry. I would find another clinic if you can, they’ve been awful to you. As for not finding a heartbeat, if they didn’t measure anything then it might be that you’re not very far along in which case they wouldn’t find a heartbeat anyway. So sorry you had to go through that.
 
Hugs. That is beyond unacceptable and I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. I was worried that may be harsh with you since you mentioned their specialty, but I was hoping I’d be wrong. You absolutely did not deserve that.

I highly suggest finding another place to do your care. Pregnancy is such a vulnerable time and you should have a care team that makes you feel safe, loved, and respected.

I agree. You’re about 6w correct? It’s very common to not see a heartbeat at 6w, especially with a rushed or unskilled tech. I wouldn’t trust them to have really tried to find it or, frankly, to be honest with you if they did.

The fact that they did not allow you to have a support person is, at least where I’m from, completely illegal. It is true that under about 7-8w a transvaginal is better as it’s much more accurate and detailed than abdominal, but the comments about your body and way they went about it is absolutely disgusting.

I’m sorry that your first visit didn’t go well. Sending positive vibes.
 
Thanks for the positive comments..
i don’t know if im being dramatic but I feel like absolute crap. I feel violated. Im crying while writing this and no im not attention finish just being honest and raw with yaal. I think im being dramatic but that encounter today idk the vibes aren’t it and plus now my stomach is HURTING like hurting on my right side it’s like tightly cramping and it hurts. Im worried im alone for a few days still and I have work in the morning I don’t get how irresponsible I am right now like I can’t with this I have to go to work at 8 am tomorrow. I kinda just wanna lie down and let the world absorb me. I don’t think im making much sense but yea. I’m in physical pain bc of past trauma down THERE and the nurse absolutely destroyed any healing I’d done. I think im bleeding but im on the bus rn so idk but im worried. But once again im not worthy enough to have a kid if im this irresponsible.. idk what the point of this message was but felt good to say it.. sorry for bothering any whom this may have bothered taking the time to read.
 
Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry that lady was such a bi*ch. Find another doctors office pronto. You did nothing wrong and you’re not being irresponsible. You’re doing the best you can and I think the steps you’re taking are showing great maturity and you are taking tons of responsibility. Don’t let disgusting awful people steal your sunshine ok? I hope you have a close friend to support you through this and/or a counselor you can get help from, to heal from your trauma and help you cope with everything you’re going through. I’m sending you massive hugs and please don’t be down on yourself, you did nothing wrong. <3
 
Big hugs. Deep breaths.

I agree, can you talk to someone? Obviously, we’re here but there’s that face to face comfort we can’t give. Healing isn’t a straight line. You’ll move forward and backward and sideways. I have PTSD as well, and I thought because I’d gone a year and a half without a trigger I was healed. Then out of the blue one sentence sent me into a full on panic attack. Healing isn’t a straight line. Please know that you having a trigger or being triggered is not your fault.

You are worthy. Look at everything you’ve accomplished for your pregnancy in just a few days. I don’t see you as being irresponsible. You’ve been quite responsible. Do not mistake difficulty or challenge for irresponsibility. It’s a tough road and you will stumble but that doesn’t make you irresponsible. You are so brave for pushing through adversity.
 
I am so sorry you went through this. You're not dramatic, it sounds you are post traumatic, which makes total sense because you are a rape victim.
Don't worry about not seeing a heartbeat, it's really still early. I also didn't see it when I went to my scan a few days ago.
I am sending you support and love.
 
Hey :),
So this morning I woke up with Insane nausea , I was shaking and crying bc it hurt so much and my abdomen was quite painful as well, anyone know what might be causing this?? I’m currently on the bus heading towards work but my lower back, abdominal are still in pain as well as some intense nausea :((
 
Did they ever call you back about the blood work? They should have called you back with beta numbers or a yes/no if pregnant or not. How many weeks did they say you should be around?

That was wrong how you were treated and for him to say baby was dead is so unprofessional because they have no idea what's going on yet.

I don't think you should be having so much pain. I would call and see if you can be looked at again on Monday when you go for more blood work.
 
Hey so update:
I started bleeding. Quite a bit. Passed a clot I think that’s what that was..? I’ve been nauseous for the past few days and now my back is absolutely killing me, I missed two shifts already so I can’t miss another tmr morning but I’m in a lot of pain. Am I having a miscarriage?? Basically symptoms are as followed : nausea, bleeding, pain in the abdominal region, back ache persistant dizziness
Maybe I’m just going crazy too but idk what are your thoughts?
 
If you describe anything as pain can cramping it’s a definitely see a doctor situation. It’s really difficult to diagnose a mc without a doctor. I’ve passed clots in pregnancy. Once it was the loss of a twin. Three times it was nothing. I remember passing a clot so big after intense pain my first pregnancy I didn’t want to flush the toilet because I was scared. 16 hours in the er and it turned out to be a uterine cyst and threatened mc but not mc at that time. So the only way to know is a scan and/or blood work. Sorry you’re going through this
 
Hi guys.
I had repeat blood work and scans yesterday. I got my results today. It confirmed what I was worried about. I Lost it. It’s so foolish to be upset but I really am upset. I feel like I’ve failed it, like obv this is my fault and I am not worthy of such a blessing and that’s why it’s gone.. the physical pain is somewhat gone but emotionally I’m drained. I just wish I could get stalled up by the universe and have never existed. I am such a terrible person for letting this happen. But I wanted to thank you all for your help through out this. I’m sorry for the time you guys wasted trying to help me. I should have knows I was a lost cause from the beginning. I was foolish to take this on and think I could be good at this. Or anything really.. but yea that’s the sitch.
 
@Skyyaxx I am so sorry :(
This is absolutely not your fault. Miscarriages happen in about 20% of pregnancies and have nothing to do with who you are. I had two miscarriages in the past. Mostly these embryos were never able to survive because of genetic problems, and they just stop developing.
Sending you big hugs. Is there anyone you can talk to? A friend, a family member? You need support right now.
 
I'm so sorry to hear your news. Please don't blame yourself you did everything you could.. I don't know what else to say but sending loads of love to you xxx
 
Hey @Skyyaxx are you still around? I was thinking of you, hoping you are doing OK. How are you coping with all you've been through?
 

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