Paternity

This is a throw away account. I know I’m going to get some negative replies, but in reality I’m here for a logical insight, so judgement won’t help.

I was dating someone back in November when he decided he wasn’t ready, we’ll call him guy B,

in January a different ex, I’ve seen on and off for years as well, we’ll call him guy A, came back. We were friends at first but the end of January came and we started sleeping together. We had sex on the 24th and 25th unprotected and he ejaculated inside of me both nights. Both nights we went straight to sleep after. I found out guy A, the one I’d BEEN seeing was also seeing another girl behind my back. I was angry, ended things and in retaliation got back with guy B. Guy B and I had unprotected sex on January 27th, but he did pull out. I did try to use Plan B the night of the 25th with guy A, but I ended up pregnant still. I did not have a period at all in January. I’m not sure when I ovulate, I was very regular until December.

I took a test on the 7th of February which was negative. I was feeling really exhausted, and not myself. But convinced I wasn’t pregnant. On the 11th i took one more just to be safe, and that one came back positive. At my first ultrasound, February 22nd, the OB said I looked to be 5 weeks and 5 days. My next appointment they said I would be due October 23rd. On March 1st, they measured the baby at 6 weeks and 3 days.

i feel more like it would be guy A, based on the fact he ejaculated twice, and we went to bed after. Guy B pulled out, and I know pull out is not 100% effective. Based on what I’ve given and what I know, who would you have an inclination towards?

i know there’s no definitive way without a paternity test, which guy A and I are going to get. But I’d just like to brace myself for the possible outcomes and put my faith in one guy more than the other based off of another persons perspective. If you have any questions feel free to ask. Thank you

DobbyForever said:

Oh that is tricky because they are so close in days. Sperm can live up to 3-5 days and early ultrasounds can be inaccurate up for several days. So you’re right, this is a rare occasion where it’s really going to boil down to the paternity test.

That being said let’s sleuth this out.
2/22 - 5w5d. This puts ovulation at 1/27.
3/1 - 6w3d. This puts ovulation at 1/29.
So, unfortunately, either gestational age and ovulation date puts both guys in that O-5 fertile range.

Now logistically though. I have gotten pregnant despite using plan b. When I asked my ob how that was possible, she said that I likely ovulated and conceived before taking the pill. I had a broken condom situation and wasn’t able to get to the pill due to a road trip for a day or two. So it could be possible that you ovulated 1/24 or 1/25, which is why the pill didn’t work when you took it. And maybe the baby is just measuring ahead a few days.

I’ve known women to get pregnant using pullout, but I’ve also known people who have used pullout for decades with no unwanted pregnancies. Toss in the plan b on 1/25. I’d guess Guy A.

Just curious, when was your period in December? And roughly how long are your cycles?

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Thank you for replying! It looks like my LMP was December 10-16. My flo app shows my cycles as short as 25 days and as long as 34, the average says 31 days. I’m hoping more for guy A, and wanting to believe the baby would more than likely be his. But i already have that lean towards him, so that’s why I wanted to ask from an outside perspective

lomelindi17 said:

Hmm according to dating scans your O day could have been Jan 27 or 29. It honestly could be either of them but I’d lean more towards guy A as well since the other pulled out. Sperm can live a few days inside you waiting for you to ovulate. I’m sorry the Plan B didn’t work and you’re in this situation. No judgement here, shit happens. I hope everything turns out ok for you.

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That’s why i was so frustrated with what I did, I’m not usually like that but I guess I let my emotions get the best of me. Thank you for replying! I was hoping more for guy A but I feel like I’m biased. I appreciate you! I hope everything works out too, im more nervous to get the paternity test and it not be guy A because he has started to come around and started to want this baby. We aren’t together and he knows, but he says he wants her. Guy B doesn’t want anything to do with her.