2021 GD support thread.

motherofboys said:

Hi Tina. So glad gender swaying worked for you. It's always nice to hear a positive story.

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The guilt I had with ds 3 was awful tho I felt I couldn't bind with him xx

Hi y'all, I know this thread is a little slow but I had to write down some thoughts I'm going through...I've been in my head about trying for a 4th for about 9 months now when hubby & I had a slip up (I think I had a chemical, light lines on tests but then blank). We never discussed it, but I'm coming to a point where I either want to try or stop because of my age, so I opened up the conversation with hubby about it. In a nut shell, he put his foot down (not in an authoritarian way but we just have a lot of cons and not enough pros). I'm trying to wrap my head around not ever "getting to be" pregnant again, but also that I really will never have that girl. I am mourning the loss for something I never had -- is that a thing? I never had a sister growing up and desperately wanted one (had two brothers), and so I really hoped for a daughter, and have 3 boys. I love my boys to pieces but "miss" my daughter. I have one niece but she lives across the country and I've only just met her on Christmas at 9 months old, probably won't see her again for some time. I do have relatives nearby but they have 2 boys. No girls to dote on and I think they're done having kids as well.

Maybe it's for the best though. I remember how miserable I was as a child being the youngest and having no sister. I wouldn't want my daughter to feel that way either...but even as I type that I can't help feeling like I'm missing my daughter. Ha, even tearing up now, that's embarrassing.

Anyway sometimes I wonder if I am missing the sisters I never got to meet? My mom had, before any of us, a set of girl twins that were stillborn. I don't know. Grasping at straws to try to make sense of things I guess.

Thanks for reading!

gigglebox said:

Hi y'all, I know this thread is a little slow but I had to write down some thoughts I'm going through...I've been in my head about trying for a 4th for about 9 months now when hubby & I had a slip up (I think I had a chemical, light lines on tests but then blank). We never discussed it, but I'm coming to a point where I either want to try or stop because of my age, so I opened up the conversation with hubby about it. In a nut shell, he put his foot down (not in an authoritarian way but we just have a lot of cons and not enough pros). I'm trying to wrap my head around not ever "getting to be" pregnant again, but also that I really will never have that girl. I am mourning the loss for something I never had -- is that a thing? I never had a sister growing up and desperately wanted one (had two brothers), and so I really hoped for a daughter, and have 3 boys. I love my boys to pieces but "miss" my daughter. I have one niece but she lives across the country and I've only just met her on Christmas at 9 months old, probably won't see her again for some time. I do have relatives nearby but they have 2 boys. No girls to dote on and I think they're done having kids as well.

Maybe it's for the best though. I remember how miserable I was as a child being the youngest and having no sister. I wouldn't want my daughter to feel that way either...but even as I type that I can't help feeling like I'm missing my daughter. Ha, even tearing up now, that's embarrassing.

Anyway sometimes I wonder if I am missing the sisters I never got to meet? My mom had, before any of us, a set of girl twins that were stillborn. I don't know. Grasping at straws to try to make sense of things I guess.

Thanks for reading!

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Awww hunni it's OK to feel the way you do alot of my friends with boys feel the same way as you, they have said to me a few times they feel like they are missing something so it is definitely natural if you feel that way sending huge to you xx

Thanks tdog; I approached it with hubby again today but he is pretty set on no more. I’m just going to have to figure out how to deal with it and get over this feeling. Thanks for reading and responding

I'm happy but also sorry you can relate! Wow losing a twin, that must have been tough for your mom but also for you. I imagine that is similar to how I feel, like there was always someone extra who wasn't there growing up. I started becoming pretty close to my oldest brother in my teens, and we are close now (as much as we can be despite living on opposite coasts), but I miss that female bond. I had female friends but it's not the same, and they seemed to always have sisters so I felt like I couldn't compete with that and would never have that "sister-like" bond. I feel like I'm perpetually looking for my sister but haven't found her yet That said I do have a close relationship with my Mom, but again, not the same as a sister. There are things I could never tell her still, and certainly not growing up. But it's fun now both being adults and now I get to hear things like family gossip

Ohhh I totally hear you about the hubby changing his opinion based on the moods of him and the kids! Some days he is all lovey dovey and saying, "We make cute kids. We should have ten more." Then other days it, "You want another one??? Have you seen how crazy these things are?!" LOL

Anyway can I ask how old you are? I'm 35 and already feeling like my time has passed. My Mom was my age when she had me and I feel like she's somewhat of an old grandma...I don't want to be that to my kids, but again my oldest is almost 10 so that doesn't seem so old for him, maybe just the younger two....And I know I may not be an "old grandma" if my kids start having kids early, but there's just no way of knowing these things!

And lastly I'm feeling like maybe the desire for one more will remain even if we did have a girl. Maybe it just never goes away.

Hi ladies, I was here last year when pregnant with my 3rd son.

I’ve been keeping an eye on this thread as it became active again but wasn’t sure if I should chip in or not! Anyways, I figure I might as well in case it helps anyone. We found out a few weeks ago we’re expecting our first girl, and I’ll just leave here what worked for us. I’m sure some of you have tried different swaying techniques before and honestly I don’t know if this actually helped us or if it was luck of the draw.

We did the Babydust method (there’s a kindle book and a Facebook group for help!). So far having been part of the group for a few months, I’ve seen a mix of ‘it worked’ or ‘it didn’t work’, however there have been quite a few that have had girls/boys after multiple of the opposite gender first. We had a 2.5 day cut off.

I also took a calcium/magnesium supplement and we conceived after I was on a low carb/loose keto diet for a couple months (I also lost about 20 pounds). No extra exercise, and nothing crazy before/during/after BD.

I hope 2022 brings you all the gender you’re looking for (and I think it’s lots of pink!)

Sander said:

Hi ladies, I was here last year when pregnant with my 3rd son.

I’ve been keeping an eye on this thread as it became active again but wasn’t sure if I should chip in or not! Anyways, I figure I might as well in case it helps anyone. We found out a few weeks ago we’re expecting our first girl, and I’ll just leave here what worked for us. I’m sure some of you have tried different swaying techniques before and honestly I don’t know if this actually helped us or if it was luck of the draw.

We did the Babydust method (there’s a kindle book and a Facebook group for help!). So far having been part of the group for a few months, I’ve seen a mix of ‘it worked’ or ‘it didn’t work’, however there have been quite a few that have had girls/boys after multiple of the opposite gender first. We had a 2.5 day cut off.

I also took a calcium/magnesium supplement and we conceived after I was on a low carb/loose keto diet for a couple months (I also lost about 20 pounds). No extra exercise, and nothing crazy before/during/after BD.

I hope 2022 brings you all the gender you’re looking for (and I think it’s lots of pink!)

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Wow congratulations and what a aw6day ro be due (my birthday ) I've heard of the baby dust method before and again like you saw the mixed reviews but so glad it worked foe you and you'll have your little princess xx

How’s everyone doing? Sorry I disappeared for a while. I started a new job last year and I’ve honestly just been finding the GD quite difficult (I work with babies).
Anyway, we’re still TTC and catching up on this thread has made me feel old! I’m 39 so well past what some of you would consider too old for babies which is a bit depressing!!

Massive congratulations @Sander I can’t even imagine how excited you must be!!

I honestly wish I’d started younger so I could have had more, I’m not the most fertile person either which doesn’t help!
How have you been? I see your signature says NTNP, how’s it going?

Ooh lovely! Where are you off to?
We’ve got a Disney World holiday booked for October and I’ve thought about holding off TTC because of not being able to go on a lot of the rides and being in the Florida heat but I just don’t know if I have the time to waste at my age!

Keeping everything crossed for you that it happened very soon and you can take those trips without worry! Sounds like it’ll be an amazing experience for you and your sons!

Just found out I am having a 3rd boy.. gender disappointment is real. We were supposed to be done with kids after 2 but got pregnant with an "oopsy baby". I mourned not having a daughter with my 2nd and now I have to do it all over again. ooph... don't get me wrong. I'm not unhappy, I was prepared for this, but it still sucks..