Pregnant with third and scared!

Hi,

Recently found out I'm pregnant with our third. It was sort of planned.. We've gone through IVF previously, and we were thinking we'd use one of our frozen embryos for a May/June cycle this year, but after having unprotected sex on ONE cycle, I'm pregnant!

My hubby doesnt really want a third, but I couldn't shake the not done feeling, so his said his happy enough to try for one more.

I have a history a bad postpartum anxiety, which is eased by taking Zoloft (life saver). I'm obviously not taking right now (have been off it for around 6 months). Anyway, I also had a fairly traumatic time with my second born - he had silent reflux and the first 4 months were an absolute living nightmare (my son would cry for 6 hours at a time, and so would I).

Still, I was initially feeling positive about falling pregnant. Then last night I happen to watch a video on YT where a blogger was talking about (in lots of detail) about her rough journey with postpartum anxiety and depression. I should not have watched it because it brought back some of the emotions I've previously felt, and now I'm really scared having a third was a huge mistake .

I'm just worried now I won't be able to handle a third, or how they'll fit in with our family. Will I be disappointed if its another boy?! Are we ruining what we've already got by adding in too much stress... ugh, I just feel so unsure now.

I guess I'm just looking for some positive reassurance from other mum's who have gone for a third. Is it as scary as it seems?!

Bevziibubble said:

Congratulations!
I've heard ladies on here say that going from 2 to 3 is quite an easy adjustment and they just tend to fit in and everything falls into place. I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months

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Yes, I've heard this is as well - I'm hoping its true .
Thanks !

sadeyedlady said:

@KatBar Congratulations. How you're feeling is completely understandable. I had very bad PPD with my first so I had a prescription of Zoloft ready to take after I had DS2. I would strongly recommend talking to your GP about this before baby is born. If you're prepared it makes things much easier.

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Yes, I did the same with my second (had a script ready and started taking the day after he was born). Mentally I had a much better start with number 2, but then his reflux hit around 2 weeks old and it got real rough!
Our first didn't have reflux tho (& my second has a particular respiratory condition that can cause reflux), so I'm hoping we might avoid that with number 3.
Thanks for your advice ! I actually feel a lot better after just venting to my sister and hubby tonight, so hopefully I can get back to feeling a bit more positive!

Thanks for the replies ladies. Nice to know I'm not alone!

I'm now 9 weeks and 3 days, and def feel far more positive/happy, and not overly anxious.
It still scares me to think of having a newborn, a kid in kindergarten and a kid in school lol. But I know those early years fly by, so before I know it, this one will also be school!