TTC after miscarriage 2020

Hi ladies,

So AF has been and gone and we are planning to try this cycle. We only loosely track but try to DTD every few days anyway.

However, I am so anxious. We literally only found out we were pregnant at 6 weeks then a week later, i had heavy bleeding (that was our first try) so I just keep thinking what if it happens again...

I'm getting close to when I should be ovulating and OPKs are finally starting to get a line, my app says I'm at high fertility, fingers crossed in the next few days I'll get that + then we can get on with the TWW.

Its going to be the first time I've ovulated since my most recent loss, the medical management of the miscarriage has been awful! not something I ever want to go through again. Its making me feel super nervous about the possibility of ovulating and the small chance that I will get pregnant this month and we will have another loss.

I wish this all wasn't so hard for us all

Oh ladies...I’m sure I’ll feel the same when I’m ready to try again. But please try not to worry about what might go wrong, I’m feeling so positive for everyone in this thread

Hope everyone is doing ok?
The bleeding is so frustrating isn’t it...just when you think it’s stopping it gets heavy again
I’m on day 16 now so I’m sure I’ve got a while to go?!

babybears25 said:

Hope everyone is doing ok?
The bleeding is so frustrating isn’t it...just when you think it’s stopping it gets heavy again
I’m on day 16 now so I’m sure I’ve got a while to go?!

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After my mmc in Feb I only had barely-there spotting to begin with and thought how lucky I was, but then it kicked in big time. I seem to remember it had tailed off by the time I went to my GP for my check-up 3 weeks after the ERPC. I would say keep an eye on it though, if it suddenly seems much heavier or you're having pain don't hesitate to get checked out. I started having some niggling pains a few weeks on from the mc and thought I might have a UTI but it turned out to be an infection from the surgery and I needed 2 weeks of strong antibiotics to shift it.

Lerp20 said:

Hi ladies,

So AF has been and gone and we are planning to try this cycle. We only loosely track but try to DTD every few days anyway.

However, I am so anxious. We literally only found out we were pregnant at 6 weeks then a week later, I had heavy bleeding (that was our first try) so I just keep thinking what if it happens again...

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I know just what you mean. I can handle the idea of not getting an immediate but the idea of having to go through another mmc scares the life out of me. Otoh though, I remember holding both my sons and thinking that it was worth everything and that I'd go through it all again and much much more to have them, so I just keep thinking that whenever we get our rainbow, however long or how much of a struggle it takes, I WILL have that moment again

I'm on CD10. My period tracker is predicting ovulation on CD16 but it only bases that on information from my previous cycles as I don't temp or use OPK's or anything. I'm sure last time I got pregnant I ovulated much later in my cycle so I'm not taking it as gospel and we'll just dtd as often as we can these next couple of weeks in the hope of catching any eggs that are around (tbh we do that anyway )

Hope everyone else is doing okay.

Mine only took a week after each medical management and then went to spotting inbetween but I put that down to having retained products.

Thanks ladies, ok Rebaby I will keep an eye on it. It’s not very heavy now but still bright red. I’ve got slight period pain feeling too but it’s not too bad luckily

Hope we get our babies soon! We have all been though so much


I’ve booked myself in to have a tattoo done on the 7th of sept I was going to wait to see if I did get a bfp this month but I thought o well I’ll cancel it if I need to x I’m thinking of giving it a try again next month and if no bfp I’m not going to be not trying but not preventing it beacuse all the opks and temps are so stressful ‍ If only my partner knew how many opks I’ve been taking and how my tests I’ve been buying Got a right stash..

I’m beginning to wonder if my surge is not that strong and I need the 10miu opks? I see so many people getting the test line darker then the control line.. I’ve taken another opk and it’s hardly visible.

@Stargirl1993 exciting about your tattoo! Will give you something to look forward to if you don’t get your BFP this cycle.

I’ve never used opks so I can’t be much help really...sorry x

Used a FRER this morning with FMU and it’s looking pretty faint. Nurse wants a negative by next Friday so hopefully that will happen

@babybears25, so many hugs.

I got my BFP 2 days ago, the lines looked lighter the next day (well FRER was way lighter but cheapie was way darker and it was only like 11 hours from one test to the next, ha) so I've had DH hide the rest of my tests. Just have to hope and send love.

Best of luck to all you ladies!

@MrsKatie thank you. Sending you lots of
luck and positivity

MrsKatie said:

@babybears25, so many hugs.

I got my BFP 2 days ago, the lines looked lighter the next day (well FRER was way lighter but cheapie was way darker and it was only like 11 hours from one test to the next, ha) so I've had DH hide the rest of my tests. Just have to hope and send love.

Best of luck to all you ladies!

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Congratulations! Sending you all the sticky dust!

I'm (allegedly!) mid-cycle (ish) so nothing really to report here.

How's everyone else doing?

Hugs to you @salamander91 It must be so hard...maybe a social media break might help? And I really hope this cycle is more normal for you.
I’m still bleeding, 21 days now and my 12 week scan would have been on Thursday so will try to keep busy.

salamander91 said:

It's my due date on Saturday. I'm really struggling with it. My SIL has her 20 week scan tomorrow and I really can't deal with talking about pregnancies and seeing scans this week. It's so hard.

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It’s gotta be so hard.